As I’m preparing to head into a rather busy month, I may ease up on these postings so as not to make myself any more crazy than I already am - we’ll see how things go. (Insert bug-eyed emoji face here)
The End of Reflection: The amount of time I am on my phone or laptop, at times without realizing so, makes me want to vomit sometimes. Technology is amazing, and incredibly helpful in so many ways. I’m also a huge fan of technology breaks - of time at the cabin or out of cell service range, where I feel like I get to re-set myself. This article brings up some good points for both, but let’s all agree to put our phones down more often and have some ACTUAL face time.
Thin Slices Of Anxiety: An Illustrated Meditation On What It’s Like To Live Enslaved By Worry And How To Break Free: Anxiety and I have become rather close these last few years, as much as I wish that weren’t necessarily true. It’s something I’m still figuring out how to manage, and can just be really tricky at times to deal with. These illustrations and accompanying words are so much of what I’ve found my experience to be like, and whether you also suffer from anxiety or not, I hope this helps us all increase our empathy a bit for our fellow humans.
“Good Bones” by Maggie Smith: I found this poem relatively recently, and it’s brought me a ridiculous amount of comfort as the world seems to turn upside down in a new way every single day. I’ll tease you in with the closing lines:
“This place could be beautiful,
right? You could make this place beautiful.”
The Revised Fundamentals of Caregiving: I picked this book up in a used bookstore in DC last month, and hadn’t had a chance to read it until this last weekend, when I read it in a day. Between a lovely solo breakfast, on public transit, and on my porch, I was absolutely floored. One of the reviews compared it to a combination of Little Miss Sunshine and Rain Man - I would perhaps add a bit of Dan In Real Life to that mix, and yet it is entirely its own. A story of truly caring, of losing it all, of friendship, of utter humanity, of heartbreak, and of joy - I cannot recommend this enough. ”Listen to me: everything you think you know, every relationship you’ve ever taken for granted, every plan or possibility you’ve ever hatched, every conceit or endeavor you’ve ever concocted, can be stripped from you in an instant. Sooner or later, it will happen. So prepare yourself. Be ready not to be ready. Be ready to be brought to your knees and beaten to dust. Because no stable foundation, no act of will, no force of cautious habit will save you from this fact: nothing is indestructible."
“Alaska" by Maggie Rogers: Maggie Rogers, the NYU student whose song “Alaska” nearly brought Pharrell Williams to tears in this video, has mixed and mastered her track, now available on Spotify. One of the catchiest (and overall great) songs I’ve heard lately.
Longform Podcast #187: Elizabeth Gilbert: Elizabeth Gilbert is one of my very favorite humans, and I had been saving this one for a bit. She has some of the most interesting stories, and such a fascinating view on life and creativity and how we go through it all. Recommended for literally all humans, now and always.
Jesse Williams On Black Lives, Equal Rights And Freedom: Please take the time to listen to his incredibly powerful speech. We have so far to go. ”Yesterday would have been young Tamir Rice’s fourteenth birthday. So I don’t want to hear any more about how far we’ve come when paid public servants can pull a drive-by on a twelve-year-old playing alone in a park in broad daylight, killing him on television and then go home to make a sandwich.”
Surviving On Small Joys: It seems so impossible to keep finding pockets of joy after a tragedy, whether international or national or personal. It seems like the world ought to stop, or that joy will not be a feasible option ever again. And then somehow, joy shows up. It’s miraculous and impossible and all sorts of things, and I really do not understand it. We need joy and love and peace and light, but we also know there is so much more to be done than simply to think about those things. “I know nothing that will get us through this beyond whatever small pockets of happiness we make for each other in between the rage and the eulogies and the marching and the protesting and the demanding to be seen and accounted for. I know nothing except that this grief is a river carrying us to another new grief, and along the way, let us hold a space for a bad joke or a good memory. Something that will allow us to hold our breath under the water for a little bit longer.”
35 Corgis To Get You Through Your Day: Life can be all the things, but corgis are the greatest and I am having a very hard time not owning a dog right now. This is a semi-helpful stand-in for the time being.
May your weeks be full of breaks from technology, honest words about hard things, time to reflect, and a multitude of corgis/dogs/animals.