Favorite Things, Vol. XXV

Well, it's been a bit since I posted here - between being out of town and feeling a bit overwhelmed by life, I decided to take what I could off my plate, and that turned out to be things I had put on my own plate. I'm still figuring out a balance, but aren't we all constantly trying to figure out balance??

I got connected with the poet cin salach through a mutual friend, and was so honored to make some pieces of her work. Check her out! 

TO READ

Patton Oswalt’s Tribute To His Late Wife: This is equal parts heartbreaking and beautiful. Patton Oswalt’s wife, Michelle McNamara, passed away suddenly in her sleep earlier this year, and these words sum up grief in an astounding way.

"If you spend 102 days completely focused on ONE thing you can achieve miracles. Make a film, write a novel, get MMA ripped, kick heroin, learn a language, travel around the world. Fall in love with someone. Get 'em to love you back.

But 102 days at the mercy of grief and loss feels like 102 years and you have shit to show for it. You will not be physically healthier. You will not feel "wiser." You will not have "closure." You will not have "perspective" or "resilience" or "a new sense of self." You WILL have solid knowledge of fear, exhaustion and a new appreciation for the randomness and horror of the universe. And you'll also realize that 102 days is nothing but a warm-up for things to come. 

And... 

You will have been shown new levels of humanity and grace and intelligence by your family and friends. They will show up for you, physically and emotionally, in ways which make you take careful note, and say to yourself, 'Make sure to try to do that for someone else someday.’"

Elizabeth Gilbert On The Importance Of Self-Love Amidst Difficulty: I’ve said it once and I’ll say it forever: Elizabeth Gilbert, please will you be my fairy godmother/conscience??? In this piece, she talks about those moments of difficulty where you wish you could have said something differently or been bolder or acted sooner, and how that is the moment where you need to love yourself the most. The difficult parts of yourself and of your actions and of your past can be so hard to reconcile, and it can be so hard to forgive yourself in and for those moments. But as she points out, withholding love from yourself is withholding love from the world. Empathy is hard, and empathy towards yourself is hard, AND we have to do it. We must.

Life After The Olympics: A fascinating look at Olympians, both in their experiences at their Games and what life after the Games has looked like for them. While often fraught with struggles and difficulties, to see how being Olympians has and has not affected the rest of their lives is intriguing and also rather empathy-inducing.

 

TO LISTEN

Ingrid Michelson & Deaf West Theatre Present “Hell No” - The Official ASL Music Video: While her first music video for this song with all the most amazing Snapchat filters was incredible, this is another sort of incredible. American Sign Language has always been fascinating to me - I learned some alongside my brother when we were growing up, and to see it so prominently shown is wonderful.

David Ramirez “Find The Light”: A friend was recently introduced to David Ramirez, and reminded me of his incredible work. He has long been a favorite of mine, and I’m really stoked for his tour later this year. Here’s one of my very favorite songs of his, which also definitely makes my All-Time-Favorite-Songs List.

 

TO INSPIRE

Maud Ferhout Photography: A Dutch college student, Maud put together two projects: one focusing on “real men” crying and the other on “real women” laughing. Her words in this piece explain how she came to name the projects, as well as why she chose these two actions. As someone who feels all the feels and believes gender stereotypes hurt everyone, this is a beautiful project to see. 

Leche Libre: Stylish and Functional Breastfeeding Apparel: My kickass friend Andrea recently launched a Kickstarter for her incredible breastfeeding-friendly apparel, and has already surpassed her goal in a week! Help her continue to kick more ass and normalize breastfeeding even more in a stylish way by contributing! 

President Barack Obama Says, “This Is What A Feminist Looks Like”: Obama, please NEVER STOP BEING SO EXCELLENT. This article is fantastic, he is wonderful, and this is why we need feminism. For everyone. 

Donald Maroney: As a fan of 30 Rock and an adamant detester of all Donald Tump, this is the best thing I could have ever wished for, but never would have thought to make. Sent to me by one of my wonderful roommates, Jenna Maroney’s insane words + pictures of Donald Trump = everything. 

 

May your weeks be full of empathy, words that stop you in your tracks, people who are doing important work, and well-placed lines from amazing TV shows. 

 

xoxo

H